There seems to be a more fundamental implication; That being successful or skillful comes at the cost of skills like empathy.
Success: Success means different things to different people. Your definition of success will most certainly be different from mine. Money, fame, appreciation, free time. This will have to be aligned against your personal values.
Technical skills are usually quite straight forward to acquire and master. Not to be mistaken for being easy, but rather that a technical skill set often requires a methodical approach to a given subject and setting off time to learn.
The cost value of empathy
It seems to me that empathy is (mis)placed high up on a pedestal as this magic skill that some people supposedly just have, not as something aquirable for the rest of us.
On the one hand, experiencing true empathy may be more rare than we’d like to admit, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a benefit from trying. From a simpler perspective, it’s all about attempting to understand someone and making a connection to their needs. Talking less, and listening more. Acknowledging alternative views, beliefs and approaches.
It isn’t a skill that has to be prioritized against technical skills, but rather one that can enhance and be nurtured alongside. I truly believe that every small step towards empathy will greatly help in all aspects of our lives. Technical and personal.
As for building awesome communities, there may be other ways than dictatorship and bad mouthing.
Can you afford not to spend time on a more empathic approach?